Support network

Last Wednesday, Sam and I attended a support group for pre-adoptive families. It's sponsorered by Resolve (the infertility support and education group we belong to). We've been to several different groups offered by Resolve and made some great friends so we were very excited about joining this new group. It's held at the leaders' house the last Wednesday of each month. This month there was a meet-n-greet with one of the first babies adopted into the group. It was so exciting to hear their story and see the new baby. I can't even remember when Ian was that small. Weird, because it's not like it was forver ago or anything.

There were several families there at all different stages in the adoption process. Some people still doing research, people like us who are just starting the paperwork, people in the homestudy process, and actually quite a few families who are in the waiting process. There was a good mix of international and domestic - the international families will be a great resources for us. They are so much farther along in the process than us and with a mixed race family in their future as well it'll be nice to know there are people to talk to about things.

We are still reminded about how lucky we are as being the only people there with a biological child. Sometimes it's hard to sit there and try and convince these people that we are in the same boat as them, but this group has such a different vibe than the others. The infertility support group is usually a sad time, people getting together with another month of disappointments and heartache. People tend to cry and the husbands don't always show up. But at this group - everyone was laughing and excited. There was a hope in the air and an excitement. It was very uplifting and again, I think it'll be so helpful for us. I look forward to the next meeting.